A LETTER FOR ME WHICH IS A LESION

Sheela, life is always filled with questions at very stage for example some of the most common questions. Why do sad people attract sad incidences in life? Why do happy people attract happy situations in life? Why do some people are prone to divorce? Why do some people always get a wrong job and wrong boss?
Depending on what state of being we are, we attract situations. We have to focus on heightening our state of being rather than changing situations in life. If our state of being is low, then the external situation, even though sacred, will be pulled down to our level of being. For example, a poor man in a palace will make the palace into a gutter.
A Man, while walking in the desert saw a group of people riding horses. He thought they were robbers and started running. They turned out to be travelers. Seeing the Man started running, the travelers thought he was in trouble-so they started going towards him. Now the Man was convinced they were after him and he ran into a graveyard – the travelers followed him there. The tired Man lay down on one of the coffins. Then he realized they were not robbers but travelers. They asked him: "Why are you here?" "I m here because of you and you are here because of me" answered the Man. "This is the law of karma". In other words, we attract situations in life. So don't look at people in the same way with same intentions formed by one incidence.
We often find ourselves in such situations aligned to our state of being. If our consciousness is not committed to transformation, then we will not grow wiser from situations, but complain and grumble, expecting the situation to be different. According to yogic shastras, there are different levels of being - seven chakras or centers. Some operate from the lowest center and such people attract similar situations. Nature context is that humans evolve from lower to higher centers. This happens when you learn and grow. If one does not do that then the situation goes on repeating itself until we learn and grow.
How can we change one state of being? There are two types of growth: horizontal and vertical growth. Horizontal growth means more money, name and fame. People's yardstick of growth is more in the horizontal domain. People come and tell me, "I have grown" - which means five years back I earned 1 million a year and now I earn 10 million a year. This type of growth is not fulfilling. The second type of growth is vertical growth. The yardstick for this is: Five years back how calm was I, and how calm am i now? The growth is measured in its depth and not in its width. The more one grows in love, kindness and compassion, the more one is truly growing. Such a growth is fulfilling. Growth happening in the vertical dimension changes one's state of being. Today most of the young girls or woman are just looking at the horizontal growth, that’s the reason many fail to live happily despite of all the essential factors needed for this materialistic world.
Once a king sought to resolve a dispute between two of his ministers who wanted to marry the same woman. He told both of them to walk on a rope and whoever did so successfully, would win the hand of the woman. One minister spent a sleepless night worrying how he would be able to walk the tightrope. The other minister was very relaxed - he felt there was no point in getting agitated when death was imminent anyway. The minister who kept his cool emerged the winner, walking effortlessly on the rope. Asked to share his secret, he only said, "I don’t know". To walk on the rope without losing one's balance involves being relaxed, balanced and being in the present. The same qualities are vital for the success of a marriage, too. In order to grow vertically, one has to cultivate the art of relaxation, be balanced, and stay aware in the present. Life is fulfilling only with such a type of growth. Happiness and joy flower forth in this state of consciousness.